So.. this is a problem I have never come across before, mostly because I have had release during my previous relationships, with my current girlfriend however, I am not "releasing". To be more specific we are not having sex of any kind. (yes it is a struggle.)
The problem seems to be that after kissing and petting with intense passion (sometimes for hours), the build up in my (i believe it is the seconds chakra?) becomes almost unbearable and I get terrible cramps in my lower intestine as well the terrible feeling of "blue balls". If I were not releasing purely because we werent having sex I would just handle it myself, however I am trying to not have to force release and would like to be able to store up the energy instead of releasing it through here.
I noticed that as a man whenever sexual play starts all my blood and my energy seems to concentrate directly to my groin area (no surprise there) but if I am able to continue to breathe and relax it flows better without so much concentrated force on that one area. Im not expert but I feel like sexual arousal brings energy flow, and instead of being able to take the energy "inward" it concentrates and wants to escape "outward". I also suspect that this is just due to a certain amount of personal conditioning and nature, and that I can try and teach myself to use this energy in a healthier manner.
Anyone else experience this or got any tips?!
Thanks for the help
The problem seems to be that after kissing and petting with intense passion (sometimes for hours), the build up in my (i believe it is the seconds chakra?) becomes almost unbearable and I get terrible cramps in my lower intestine as well the terrible feeling of "blue balls". If I were not releasing purely because we werent having sex I would just handle it myself, however I am trying to not have to force release and would like to be able to store up the energy instead of releasing it through here.
I noticed that as a man whenever sexual play starts all my blood and my energy seems to concentrate directly to my groin area (no surprise there) but if I am able to continue to breathe and relax it flows better without so much concentrated force on that one area. Im not expert but I feel like sexual arousal brings energy flow, and instead of being able to take the energy "inward" it concentrates and wants to escape "outward". I also suspect that this is just due to a certain amount of personal conditioning and nature, and that I can try and teach myself to use this energy in a healthier manner.
Anyone else experience this or got any tips?!
Thanks for the help
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Wed, May 7, 2008 - 5:35 PMany yin posture of total absorption and receptivity
such as "Shavasana" the Corpse Pose in which we sometimes find Lord Shiva...
this posture allows you to distribute energies to where they need to go.
It is the negative response to the active phase of arousing the energy.
creative work then provides an excellent channel for the energy-pressure
but one has to be able to absorb it through relaxing totally and feeling the body
in integration....there are standing and sitting and dancing methods for this...
but reclining in shavasana is helpful because you can signal total receptivity
to your nervous system and just feel yourself sink into gravity as a focus. -
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Wed, May 7, 2008 - 7:21 PMMmm...This is all very interesting. I was wondering how to help pre-mature ejaculation. I know there are several things such as stress, diet, nervousness can affect it, but what are some ways to fix this? Is this normal for most guys? I know some can go a long time without ejaculating but why? Do you think when you have a strong emotional connection you want to please your partner more, then leading to nervousness and quick ejaculation? Also has anyone ever experienced sore testicles after sex? Why might this happen? -
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:31 PMuntil the channels are open and the sexual reservoir is integrated into the rest of the nervous system,
arousal without release can lead to feelings of pressure and congestions...
various exercises like qigong, yoga ritual, etc can have the effect of guiding this accumulated energy into circulation
through the complete human system...rather than merely being ejaculated instantly or stagnating until it becomes cancer.
there is much dogma about how to do this properly, or whether this can be done at all.
you have to look at the outcome over a long period of time..those systems that generate lots of cancer, genocide and child molestation
such as most religions...obviously have it wrong. those systems that lead often enough to exceptionally talented or amusing individuals
and that don't require an excess of war to slake their thirst for the erotic...are worthy of study to the aspiring sex-magi.
we each have to work it our for ourselves during this age of testing and radical evolution. But we can always learn from the mistakes of those who have gone before.
Look into the rate of prostate cancer among the ranks of celibate religious orders. Then look into whether this can be helped by practices that prevent the seed-essence from stagnating in the lower chakras and turning malignant.
The Great Serpent destroys just as readily as It creates. -
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 12:35 PMthese are very helpful suggestions, thank you brother
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 7:40 AMProbably want to look into studying Tantra if harnessing sexual energy is what your after. -
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 12:34 PMI have looked into tantra a bit, but i'm not exactly interested in harnessing sexual energy so that I may store it up and have an abundance of sexual energy flowing through me all the time. I more interested in transmuting the sexual energy into spiritual energy.. perhaps there is no difference. What im saying is that im not trying to harness the sexual energy for the sake of sex. -
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 1:22 PMthe human manifestation of "sex"
is but one example of a vast and deep mystery
of the intercourse between each being and all of cosmos.
"spirituality" for me, is simply the expansion of my definition of union
to include more and more of the larger life-systems in which i participate
until all of universe in encompassed.
The human sex-drama is one of our primary training grounds
in how to partake of the true Communion.
(and how not to partake of It)
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Re: "blue balls" and second chakra tenseness?
Sat, May 10, 2008 - 11:36 PMSexual/tantric energies are the energies of creation. When you've built them up over hours there is no point in holding it in indefinitely. Release it physically as well as energetically. When you are releasing it energetically set an intention of what you would like to create in your world and direct the energies towards that goal. (even better to hold that intention during entire session. Better then that if BOTH of yuo hold the same intention!)
